Trust and Trust
Trust and Trust
Trust and Trust, between one person and another, is an essential component for stability within a relationship.
Trust is invaluable. So is loyalty to encompass it. It is hard to trust when you yourself are untrustworthy, you believe people would do what you may be capable of doing. So, have trust and be trustworthy and experience a mind of clarity and more fulfillment within your relationship.
Common Mistrust
Fear is the starting point of mistrust. You are with someone very dear to you, a person which makes you vulnerable and capable of heartbreak, so naturally fear takes form, a psychological fear which depicts the loss of this significant other in all the brutal ways which make your heart crumble. This fear is not a healthy habit, fall into these thoughts too frequently and you will only cause your own paranoia. Fear strikes most when your partner is in the environment you depict as threatening to your relationship, this could be work when you know someone from the office is constantly smooth talking them, could be out on the town with friends, intoxication being a reason to doubt their actions, it is anywhere where you can or have formed these false fears in your head. You form these fears and either become overly clingy or avoidant, otherwise you are just causing yourself an abundance of suffering each time your partner is a participant in one of these environments. You base your health and feelings towards your other based on perceptions you have created yourself, through mistrusting your partners moral compass, loyalty and love that they have for you. You don’t like feeling this way and you blame them for invoking it, so you limit their actions, you seek excessive reassurance, resentment builds each time this feeling of fear comes to surface. All of this is unnecessary, it all stops with a trust, trust relationship. Trust them with everything, and become trusted in everything.
Trust and Trust
Trust and trust means you maintain full faith in your partner and they have full faith in you. You trust each other to not cross the boundaries which you have set within the relationship. With trust, fear is gone, self-sabotage disappears, you are confident in your relationship, you trust your partner will stay true to you always and you return that loyalty back to them. A positive outlook on your partner is necessary, if you doubt to the point you can’t make eye contact with them properly, then you are only impeding upon the bond you have formed. Wellbeing too, a drastic example but if your partner were to act up it would be done regardless of if you were stressing about it or not. I know that is not what people want to hear, but the point is this; mess up your sanity in continuous illusionary events then the actual event, or conquer your obstacles when they come to reality, not prior. This way you can enjoy as many moments as possible, and in a healthy relationship your trust in their loyalty, only promotes more loyalty. What a rewarding sensation when you feel you have your partners trust, you are not the antagonist in their love story, not depicted as capable of betraying the heart of that closest to you. It goes both ways my friend, for unconditional love comes unconditional trust, you will not have one without the other. So have a little faith in this person you chose to have as a part of your life, stop stressing yourself silly. Trust them with all your heart and in time they will come to trust you, then you will have obtained a trust, trust relationship, one not restricted by doubt and misbelief.
If you truly can not come to trust your partner, due to events which have occurred, red flags or something happening, then discussion needs to occur. You cannot go through life distrusting the person closest to you, it does not work. Have an open conversation with your partner about the things which are bugging you, don’t blame or be too demanding about what needs to happen but rather be vulnerable and honest in talking about what is affecting you and how it is impacting your wellbeing, steer the relationship in a direction that better encompasses your health and honour doing the same for them in return. Work towards trust, first within yourself, recognise and overcome the false depictions you create. Second, within the relationship, if there is truly something bothering you, talk about it, figure out between the two of you how you can obtain this trust.
