Judgement
Judgement
Judgement, to judge another individual is to form assumptions about them based on your own perception. Your experience, your values, your beliefs, and the angle which you see the situation completely determines how you judge someone, and these judgements can be formed before the other individual’s perspective is even attempted to be grasped or understood. This is why a judgement is an assumption, an assumption being the illusive conclusion we form without full understanding of the depth of a situation. Essentially when we judge, we form a thought or belief around that person which will either distance or pull us closer together.
Good Judgement
Good judgement is formed from a foundation of understanding or with the intent to understand the individual whom which you are judging. It is to judge fairly and honestly with an empathetic approach, taking on their perspective rather than enforcing your own. When judgement is for the good will of the other individual with the purpose to assist towards positive change with a foundation of understanding of who they are and what they are going through, then this is a form of good judgement. A good judgement is also formed when it holds a compassionate regard for other people, such as, “they are really smart.” These judgments increase your own willingness to appreciate and get to know the other individual, promoting a positive connection within society. If a person you truly trust, expresses a concern they have with your lifestyle then maybe their word is something to value and take into consideration. If someone you’ve only just met insults you out of the blue, then this judgement bares little understanding and should usurp little of our consideration. This is the difference between receiving a good judgement rather than an assumed misguided one. So, if judgements are made in your mind, form positive ones which increase your relationships, or make sure critical judgements come from a place of understanding and with the intent to help, not insult or belittle the person you hold this judgement for.
Bad Judgement
Bad judgement is formed from assumptions and usually a shallow form of judgement, conclusions jumped to without any meaningful thought into the other individual, who they are, or their situation. Some people with anxiety are regarded as rude or selfish by other individuals because they don’t always wish to engage in conversation. This is an example of a bad judgement, as there is no understanding of the person who is being judged, an assumption is made without any additional thought into why they may not be engaging in conversation with you. Then this judgement further separates the individuals, one perceived as rude, the other filled with misjudgement. The key for overcoming bad judgement is to not judge a book by its cover, read it a little bit. If you don’t like someone it is usually because you have not talked with them enough. Yes, not everyone shares the same beliefs and opinions and not everyone is going to be best friends or acquaintances. But if you get to know someone even a little bit, you’ll usually find something you can appreciate about them. Notice within yourself when you jump to a concluding factor about someone, without fully knowing whether what you conclude is correct or not. Gain clarity through conversation, not misguidance through thought, and attempt to rid negative perceptions of people altogether if possible, it’ll clear a lot of brain waste.
No Judgement
No judgement means to be open and accommodating of all individuals regardless of their position. Think if you were the person in front of you, their brain, their life, you would be them, and you would be in the exact same position. Doesn’t mean much because we are not them, we don’t have their brain, and we’re are not in their position, but the moral of the story is that every individual has an inner foundation and journey in life that we ourselves cannot fully comprehend, yet we judge and demean as though in their position we would have done better, well no, if you had their brain with their situation you would be in the same state. It is better to engage with an individual from their position and perspective, attempting to understand it before employing a barrage of judgements determined by our own perspective which prevent us from listening in the first place. Nonjudgement approaches people as people, people as a whole and encompasses all aspects including self-believed shortcomings with a compassionate non-judgemental demeanour. Through this you do not place false perceptions on the person who stands in front of you, and you do not distance the ability to get to know and understand them for who they are, what they have experienced, and the beliefs and perspective they may hold. It does not say you have to completely agree, just attempt to listen without ridiculing or judging in your head. When you learn not to judge, you learn to assess whether what you thought of an individual is validated or not, a foundation of evidence or just an assumption you’ve developed. The world will be a better place when we learn to look after one another, rather than ridicule and belittle each other. Judgement alters how we see people, accept rather than reject.
Victim of Judgement
If you are a victim of excessive judgement first of all assess that these perceptions are not formed in one’s own head. Make sure you do not spotlight yourself and create judgements in your own mind that you think others are thinking of you. This is called external perspective, viewing yourself from the outside in and telling yourself things about yourself through the use of other peoples perceived thoughts. If this is not the case and judgement truly exists, assess why it exists. Assessment complete, ok, now is it something you wish or are willing to change or is it something that can’t be changed, meaningful to you and doesn’t wish to be changed. If it is something you inherently wish to change, then all for it, maybe it is a sign to make that adjustment, but don’t ridicule and beat yourself up in the process. If it is something you don’t wish or can’t change, then look past the judgements you deem unnecessary and persist with your life. There are so many dynamics to judgement that there is no real end all resolution. This is why we must assess, are these judgements helpful or not, and if not then get on with your life and understand you’ve already considered these judgements and formed your assessment of them. Some people don’t know you and if they continue to form judgements of you, understand that they don’t need to know you. Keep your heart open, do not learn to resent, as then the judgement has affected you, just get on with your life and cherish those who know the real you, you do you, you don’t need the permission or praise of all others around you.
